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Ask a stupid question... and, well, you don't get much of an answer when it comes to kids

By: Becky
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You're dying to find out what a day in the life of your child is like... who they're hanging out with, who they're sitting with, what they're friends are talking about... so why not just ask them?  Well, we all wish it would be that simple. Maybe you've had those conversations where it's like pulling teeth to get anything out of them besides a 'yea' or 'nah' answer. I know I have. So, I've been asking around and checking in with some of my friends who are a bit wiser than I. 

Here are some of the questions they specifically ask to get the answers they want. I'll bet kids would be really helpful in coming up with some good questions to ask too. Maybe make a game of it at dinner tonight...

Who'd you sit with at lunch?

What used up most of your energy today?

What the funniest thing that happened today?

What was the thing that was most frustrating?

Can you show me something you learned today? 

​One thing you learned? 

We've also started trying to do something my husband learned from our Boy Scout Troop - the Rose/Thorn/Bud exercise. Each person mentions the highlight of today (rose), the most challenging part (thorn), and what they've learned, what they'd do differently, or what they're looking forward to most tomorrow (bud). 

Here are some more ideas that may help 'prime the pump' at your dinner table too.  There are some really specific questions that may be helpful.